Everyone young man that aspires to ministry should read Baxter’s The Reformed Pastor. It has been the go-to book on pastoral care for a couple hundred years. You can read it free here.
Here is example of why it has held it own through this many years:
“(People) will give you leave to preach against their sins, and to talk as much as you will for godliness in the pulpit, if you will but let them alone afterwards, and be friendly and merry with them when you have done, and talk as they do, and live as they, and be indifferent with them in your conversation. For they take the pulpit to be but a stage; a place where preachers must show themselves, and play their parts; where you have liberty for an hour to say what you (desire); and what you say they regard not, if you show them not, by saying it personally to their faces, that you were in good earnest, and did indeed mean them…”
Richard Baxter, The Reformed Pastor, (Banner of Truth, Carlisle PA: 1974) p. 85.
M. Scott Foster is a former youth pastor and church planter. He currently is studying pastoral theology at ClearNote Pastors College in Bloomington, IN. You can contact or follow him on 
