Is Homosexuality Genetically Innate…

…and does it even matter?

I tend to believe that there are genetic factors at play with most people who have same-sex attraction. However, this belief doesn’t yield the conclusion that gay activist desire. Homosexuality can involve genetic factors and still be a sin. Anyone that wants to read a relatively short article on why this is so should read John Frame’s, “But God Made Me This Way!” Here is a short passage to get you interested:

“Would a genetic basis for homosexuality eliminate the element of “choice?” Certainly not. A person with a genetic propensity for alcoholism still makes a choice when he decides to take a drink, and then another, and then another. Same with an xyy male who decides to punch somebody in the nose. If we assume the existence of a genetic propensity for homosexuality, it is true as we said that those with that makeup face greater temptation in this area than others. But those who succumb to the temptation do choose to do so, as do all of us when we succumb to our own besetting temptations. Homosexuals certainly choose not to remain celibate, and they choose to have sexual relations. They are not forced to do this by their genes or by anything contrary to their own desires.”

Wilson on Father Hunger

What Is Father Hunger? from Desiring God on Vimeo.

“The moment a child is conceived, a father is born.”

I’ve just discovered Too Many Aborted dot Com. It is a great website. They captured my heart when they wrote, “The moment a child is conceived, a father is born.” Good stuff. Check it out here.

Home-schooling Homes and Homosexuality

Homosexuals come from all sorts of households. Single parents homes, Christian homes, middle class homes, biracial homes and just any other category of home you can come up with. Homosexuality is a sin (Scripture says this clearly and repeatedly) and sin knows no boundaries. That being said, Dr. Joseph Nicolosi’s research has shown that there are a triad of factors that tend to be present in the homes that homosexuals come raised in. The present of these environmental factors and shaping influences will put a child at higher risk of developing and acting upon homosexual urges. Several years ago I noticed this triad in one of the places a Christian would least expect. I started noticing an abnormal amount of especially effeminate young men from home-schooling families. I couldn’t wrap my mind around the causes behind this trend.  However, over time I began to notice that three variables tended to be present in all these home-schooling households.

 

First, the father was often absent due to working long hours to provide for his family. It should be noted that the father appeared to be godly in all examples I observed. He just was gone a lot and was exhausted when he was home.

Second, the mother tended to be overbearing in her management of her home. Her home was well kept. Her lesson plans well-executed. She was queen of every aspect of her home.

Third, not all the sons in these homes came across as effeminate. Some of the boys were very masculine. They were covered in bruises and cuts from building a tree house or playing soccer. However, I noticed the sons that did demonstrate these prehomosexual tendencies were usually homebodies. They tended to be very timid, artistic*, and clung to mother while his brothers explored the world outside.

So, in summary, a distant father, overbearing/protective mother, and timid child were a concoction that tended to produce effeminacy and potential homosexuality. This was disturbing to me because all three are common in home-schooling households. In this sense, home-schooling can be a very dangerous environment for young men to mature in.

What is a parent to do? Should we reject homeschooling? Should we force our artistic boys to build tree houses? Not necessarily. There is another way to come at this and it starts with the parents.

Consider this passage from Joseph Nicolosi’s A Parent’s Guide to Preventing Homosexuality:

“For variety of reasons, some mothers also have a tendency to prolong their son’s dependence. A mother’s intimacy with her son is primal, complete, exclusive, and this powerful bond can easily deepen into what psychiatrist Robert Stoller calls a ‘blissful symbiosis.” But the mother may be inclined to hold on to her son in what becomes an unhealthy mutual dependency, especially if she does not have a satisfying, intimate relationship with the boy’s father. In such cases she can put too much energy into the boy, using him to fulfill her needs for love and companionship in a way that is not good for him.
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Muslims may bungle the solution but….

An Honest Read of Our Evangelistic Methods

Pastor Tim Bayly wrote an excellent post entitled, “Go for the men and the women will follow…” In the post, he relates some great advice his father gave him on how pastors are to reach people with the gospel. He then contrasts it with some of the “evangelistic strategies” churches and para-churches often employ…

Young Life: Go for the leaders and the nobodies will follow.

Child Evangelism Fellowship: Go for the children and their parents will follow.

F-V: Go for the children and the great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great grandchildren will follow. Continue reading

We need prophets…

“Another kind of religious leader must arise among us. He must be of the old prophet type, a man who has seen visions of God and has heard a voice from the Throne. When he comes (and I pray God there will be not one but many) he will stand in flat contradiction to everything our smirking, smooth civilization holds dear. He will contradict, denounce and protest in the name of God and will earn the hatred and opposition of a large segment of Christendom. Such a man is likely to be lean, rugged, blunt-spoken and a little bit angry with the world. He will love Christ and the souls of men to the point of willingness to die for the glory of the one and the salvation of the other. But he will fear nothing that breathes with mortal breath.” – A.W. Tozer